1.  As soon as you have a wedding date book your wedding venue straight away and do not leave it too late to source suppliers. Popular and discovered venues and spaces can be booked a year in advance. Good photographers and entertainment will also be booked up early. Leaving sourcing any suppliers too late will cause you a lot of worry, the process will end up being very stressful due to you not being able to secure your preferred choices and it will be very time consuming seeking out alternatives. Wedding planners are experts with finding exactly what you need but again will need securing as early as possible, especially if your wedding is during the peak of summer.

Pendennis Castle - English Heritage

Pendennis Castle – English Heritage www.english-heritage.org.uk

2.  Ensure you have given guest deadlines for responding to you for attendance or food choices. Have a default menu, as most people will respond if they prefer another option – i.e. if I do not hear from you on food choices by X then you will be given X.

Rhubarb Catering

3.  We do not recommend arranging accommodation for guests unless you have help in administering this. This is a time consuming task and some guests will not be aware of the burden they are putting on you with their requirements. By all means provide your guests with accommodation choices and contact details but our advice is to leave it up to them to call and book.

4.  Depending on your culture and that of your guests, plan for a few extra spaces at your wedding in case unexpected guests arrive. One of the weddings we worked on last summer had 10 guests turn up during dinner…luckily we had space ready for them.

Wedding table - Divine Day Photography via Rock My Wedding


5.  Arrange some age related entertainment for the children. Weddings are long days for children and so you can ensure the adults all have the best time ensure the children do too.

Childrens Tipi - The Little Top

Children’s tipi by The Little Top – www.thelittletop.co.uk

6.  Don’t do all your beauty prepping before the night before. Ensure any of the treatments you wish to have i.e. your hair colour, cut, facials, tanning, manicure, pedicures are all done during the weeks before and our advice is not to try someone completely new for your wedding day – it will be too late to change if you are not happy with the results. If you have arranged special wedding make up and hair on the day make sure you have had trials beforehand.

Half up do's - Bridal Musings


7.  We do not advise you do anything wedding related the night before the wedding apart from relaxing and enjoying time with family and friends. Table plans and napkin folding can be scheduled for the days before.

8.  Delegate jobs to your bridesmaids and groomsmen jobs but not so many as to ruin their enjoyment too. If the list is exhaustive or involves lots of work later in the day then then consider hiring a wedding planner to help.

9.  Plan a relaxing breakfast for the day of your wedding. Order in something light such as fruit and treat yourself with a breakfast you rarely have but love.

Smoked salmon and scrambled eggs - Jamie Oliver

Smoked Salmon and scrambled eggs – www.jamieoliver.com

10.  Don’t let wedding planning take over your life, remember why you are getting married and please don’t neglect your partner in the process. This should be a really enjoyable time. If you find wedding planning taking over then please consider some help. You can still do the tasks you enjoy or wish to do yourself.

Candle Favours - Etsy

Candle Favours via Etsy – www.etsy.com

The Black Sheep Wedding Company are experts in dealing with stressed out brides. Our clients have experienced many of the above in the past – before asking us to help. If you need some additional help planning or coordinating your wedding day then please contact us.